(This does not apply to FLDS parents who have helped their children even though they disagreed with them. It applies to the more faithful, devout parents—you know who you are. Thank you, Mother, for trying to help and understand your children! The family thinks you are bad now, and I know it was hard!)

To FLDS Parents:

I grew up admiring many of you. I looked up to the men as people I wanted to emulate.

Today, I am writing not out of hatred, nor out of fear, but because I have an obligation—to myself, to all honorable people, and to God.

Today, I want to address a particular subject: your children.

Since 2010, many of the men and women among you have disregarded, kicked out, and THROWN AWAY your children in the name of religion.

Many men have disregarded their wives and left them hanging.

You have thrown out your logic in the name of obeying God.

You sacrificed your God-given ability to reason because you feared asking OBVIOUS questions.

And this is a sin—against yourself, your children, and your God.

I am not a perfect man, nor do I pretend to be.

But my sins, or those of any so-called “apostate,” are no excuse for you to point fingers and excuse your diabolical actions toward your children in the name of loyalty to God.

Your outward perfection and inward exertion are no justification. Add to that your GOOD INTENTIONS.

Do you have no spine to question the irrational decisions you have made?

Did you pray to God until He gave you the answer you wanted—or the answer you were TOLD was right? Or worse, did you avoid thinking altogether? Did you actually consider the facts and reason them out without fear of condemnation for going against your traditions?

Why am I upset? Because I see, with my own eyes, stories of parents treating their children like trash.

“We pray for you, but now that you are gone, we will never talk to you, we will shun you, and you are horrible people!”

I don’t condemn all FLDS parents. But I do condemn some because I see children who were treated horribly. These children would have preferred a severe whipping on their bottom over the mental bullshit that made them feel low enough not to want to live.

If you are a mother or father who refuses to talk to your children—who are struggling through HELL trying to find a path that is LOGICAL for them—and all you can say is, “God and the prophet do right,” then my inner anger has no outlet for you.

Do you think you went through this as a teen? No!!

When you were a teen, life made a lot more sense. You cannot tell a child:

• “You cannot date, and there’s nothing you can do about it but obey the Prophet. You might turn 50 and still be single, but as long as you are faithful, that’s what matters.”
• “You have to be perfect, but if you are, then you’ll just get sent away and shoved down. Be happy and live with it—no good deed will go unpunished!”
• “After you do everything and we see you trying, if the Prophet condemns you, then we will too. You’re trash if he says so. We didn’t see your hard work.”
• “Now that we’ve made everything make no sense, when you try to reason with us, we’ll tell you that you’re bad for even doubting.”
• “If you leave, you will be in eternal hell. If you stay, then the only thing you can do is shut up and obey. There is no clear path.”

When I see parents like this, my blood boils. What trash you faithful bastards are.

Your GOOD INTENTIONS are DISGUSTING!!

A MOMENT OF SILENCE FOR THE YOUNG MEN WHO TRULY TRIED THEIR VERY HARDEST!!! And somehow they pushed through without any friends. You weren’t a girl that people wanted to help. You weren’t any good for anything. GOD BLESS YOU, young man! No one knows what you fought through. RIP to the ones who didn’t make it. We understand.

Girls, that’s not to downplay your hardship. I just know so many of these young men were trashed.

To the parents: Fix it.

You can mend what was broken if you choose humility over pride and love over fear. God gave you your children, not to abandon them, but to guide them and love them. It is your responsibility to repair the damage and bring your family together again.

Start now. Before it’s too late.

I have nothing else to say.

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