I’m one of Warren Jeffs’ sons, not his wife. But I might understand as well as anyone how dad controlled a massive family.
Most men struggle to keep one wife around—maybe because they’re boring. But Warren Jeffs was boring too, at least if you were his 57th wife doing laundry or cooking meals.
So why the loyalty? Why the absolute dedication?
Seduction has always fascinated me, especially in a religious context. In religion, seduction isn’t just discouraged—it’s basically illegal to even think about. And when you forbid people from thinking about sexual tension, it doesn’t disappear. It just slips under the surface and controls them without them knowing.
That is the power of religion.
And what were Warren Jeffs’ trainings always about? Thoughts and feelings.
You cannot take away from humans the deep-rooted desires for sexual pleasure and human connection.
But you can channel those desires into religious devotion—sexual tension and the need for connection concentrated into “spiritual experience.” Because if religion is the only “right” outlet, everything becomes holy. Including sex with Warren Jeffs.
And the “ohhhhh Warren,” with giggles like a child, confirms all of this for me. I saw it hundreds of times—from a distance, and at other times as close as one can witness it.
How does a serious religious conversation make one of his wives suddenly say “oh Warren,” with sexual tension and a shiver down her back? Because those religious talks were part of the sexual outlet. Nothing feels more holy than sex that God wants you having.
If you control the outlet of sexual tension, you control a person entirely.
Identity Erosion: Become a Wife, Not a Person
“Warren had me bring all my dresses, spin around for him, told me to get rid of certain ones.” That’s an excerpt from one of the mothers’ wedding stories. I wish I could remember which one out of the ten or fifteen I remember that had that exact part.
And: STOP SEEING YOUR FATHER’S FAMILY. Dad didn’t like that shit. Don’t hang out with low-class people that aren’t meeting Jesus every day like we are.
Your books? Get rid of the ones he doesn’t approve.
Pictures? Don’t be attached to someone that isn’t your Priesthood head. We are going to Zion and you’re worried about your old dad???
So yes, absolute information control—including not talking to your former family unless he specifically approved. If they were a prominent family, maybe it was a bit more okay.
When you marry Warren Jeffs, you dress how he wants, think how he wants, and do exactly what he says. As for what you have to say? You’re the wife of a former God, a future God, and the most important man on planet earth. So act like it. And don’t assume God isn’t going to tell him exactly how you should improve.
And I hate to tell you this, but I’m also dying to tell you: the mothers had this particular way of dressing. When a new wife came, she had to get schooled if she didn’t already dress that way. I overheard the secrets—and now you know. Things like the order they put the leggings or jeans on under their dress.
Exactly as the subheading says: Become his wife, not an independent human being.
Did I skip the part where he was the principal of the school many of them grew up going to? Yeah—that part helps too.
O My God Warren…
“Warren so cute!” says one of the mothers down the hallway—then you realize it’s a whole cluster of them grouped up.
Here’s what I noticed: obsession over Warren turned into a clique, a mini cult, a euphoria of emotional fantasies between small groups of dad’s wives. Even if those fantasies were never spoken or even consciously thought.
Some mothers weren’t part of this, especially if they had several kids. Many would feel uncomfortable looking back on it. But as far as I can tell, this was absolutely the case.
Take five younger mothers who spend a lot of time together. It’s like the five girls in high school obsessed over a boy, except in this case he’s the most powerful person on earth in their minds. The final boss.
When the fighting was too much? Talk about Warren.
Major disagreement? Ask Warren.
Need something? Ask Warren.
When Dad was in the home, jealousy was felt on extreme levels—whether they admitted it or not. But when Dad went to prison, it became more of a bond over what they both knew they couldn’t have: a release of sexual tension.
Not that jealousy disappeared. But the release—emotional, sexual, spiritual—showed itself in long conversations about Warren, little stories, and even fights. Sometimes silent fights, or quiet emotions.
Main point: if the only “right” outlet for desire is Warren, and everyone else wants him, and no one gets him very often, that is how you control so many wives. And none of them can suddenly be the cool kid and say, “That’s dumb, I like this other guy.” They could have. But not in that mindset.
When every woman is replaceable, obedience becomes their value. And soon they’re all trying to impress him.
Scarcity: The Most Powerful Turn-On
In 2013 one of the mothers told me another hadn’t heard from Father in two years—not even a message. I took that to mean she must be a horrible person. If God’s Prophet didn’t even acknowledge you, you must be awful.
So yes, some of Dad’s wives went years without hearing from him. They lived in the same house as wives who did get messages or encouragement. Think that was depressing? Probably more than depressing.
And if you see another woman going into dad’s room, what do you think? And with seventy women—what are your mathematical chances?
Scarcity creates urgency. Always has. It’s like the toilet paper during the pandemic. A bank run when cash is low.
And in seduction, when women are with a man, the other women want him more. And vice versa.
Scarcity was an important factor—one that made some of them go mental at times. I saw it personally. Not just sexually. Religiously. Spiritually. They yearned to be worthy, and they couldn’t.
And nothing is more powerful than social proof. When everyone around you wants something, you do too, even if it’s destroying you.
Yearn. Sex When You’re Worthy
Actually, no. If you had a seductive voice—submissive, might I add—and were skinny enough, you probably made it into dad’s bedroom. I’m not one of dad’s wives, thankfully, but I’m not dumb enough to not know who his favorites were. All his kids knew.
If you know Dad’s family personally, you know his favorites—something he claimed didn’t exist—were the most seductive to him. Look at it personally, religiously, spiritually, it’s true.
Remember the ones yearning ten times harder and never gaining his approval?
Dad claimed his favorites were “full of the spirit of God.” And you understand just how great of a Prophet he was when you see that sexual tension between dad and his wives feels awfully close to the spirit of God.
As dad’s wives would say, not everyone understands. True. When’s the last time you grew up in the FLDS, married the Prophet, and lived in a house of seventy women who all thought about one guy? Ohhh, that might make you want it even more.
Imagine the delight when you got it. Or the disappointment. I don’t know. But I know every one of those women would’ve done about anything for a night with dad.
What Leaving Really Meant
Besides leaving the greatest man on earth with power to give you eternal life, you’d also be leaving twenty wives you were actually friends with, plus their kids.
Your whole community and identity.
Most polygamous families live in separate homes. Not Dad’s. We lived in one—at least sometimes.
As awful as it was being Warren Jeffs’ wife, the whole FLDS looked at you as special. Even your father’s family did. Leave, and you lose that too.
Where would you go? Back to people who think you’re amazing because you married the Prophet? They don’t know how much it sucks to wash dishes and act like you love everyone.
And what about your younger sisters who also want to marry the Prophet?
Things would have to get extremely bad before you even thought about thinking about leaving.
For some, they did. Ten years of isolation. Being told you’re a forever-no-member damned. After five years of depression, maybe you build the courage to go to hell, betray God’s only man—the guy you thought about every day to get you through that depression.
Like Judas, maybe you can’t stand yourself after betraying God and jump onto a tree branch. That’s what Warren Jeffs said.
And if you had children, you’d be responsible for damning their souls too—not to mention they probably wouldn’t go with you, because you taught them to be loyal to their father, the most important man out of 8 billion people.
Control Outside the Religious and Sexual
There was no such thing. Small bursts of power and force were shown, but always justified by religion.
If you don’t control the religious, spiritual, and physical desires of your seventy-nine wives, they leave you. Until you master all of those, you cannot control that many people.
Once people see through it? They will resent you—at least some of them.
Seduction is a continual process of concentrating people’s strongest emotions on you. Sometimes those emotions will be anger. But notice how dad’s wives often got upset at each other, at other men, at situations—but never at Warren Jeffs?
Because he made himself the solution to every problem. And how can you be mad at the solution?
Better to fall in love and hope your luck gets you a little more time with the man you once thought was next to God.
And maybe it was the collective thoughts—yours and theirs—that made it feel as true as it possibly could.
Conclusion
Seduction is not fate. It’s not destiny.
It’s not some mystical pull you can’t explain.
It’s a structure and system.
A set of pressures that turn your deepest human needs into someone else’s power.
Warren Jeffs mastered that system—religion, sex, scarcity, identity, fear—and used it to build an empire of women who never stood a chance in that state of mind.
People like to tell themselves they’re immune. But they are not.
The more you study seduction, the more you realize something uncomfortable:
You don’t escape it simply by being strong. You escape it by understanding it. Otherwise, someone else understands you better than you understand yourself.
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My podcast last week was my feelings about my sisters getting married into what I consider another cult. Stay tuned, I just did an interview with a girl named Jana from the Kingston group. That podcast will be coming out this next week.
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